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Wednesday, March 31, 2010

yay, the book exchange is back..

try not to miss it again..
time to dig out my old books =P


this is what i got from e NLB site (http://www.nlb.gov.sg/Corporate.portal?_nfpb=true&_pageLabel=Corporate_portal_page_announcements&newsLocation=PL#664)



Book Exchange 2010

Give a book. Get a book. The infinite book exchange.

Give a book, get a book at the Book Exchange! Drop off your used books* at any Public Library from 10 to 23 April, 11.00am to 9.00pm and get a coupon for every book** accepted. Bring your coupon down to The Plaza, National Library Building, on 24 April to redeem for new reads.

Event details:
Date: Sat, 24 April 2010
Time: 8.30am to 6.00pm
Venue: The Plaza, National Library Building, 100 Victoria Street


*We accept children's and adults' fiction and non-fiction books (eg. Cookbooks, travel guides and romance novels) in any four official languages. Books in other languages will not be accepted. We also accept used library books bought from previous Library Book Sales. Textbooks, magazines and audio-visual materials are not accepted. Used books for exchange should be in relatively good physical condition.

**Each person can exchange up to a maximum of 30 used books.

For enquiries, please call NLB Helpdesk at 6332 3255 or email: helpdesk@nlb.gov.sg.
Monday, March 29, 2010

Musical Monday

Sunday, March 28, 2010

Food For Thought

受教之心

林弘谕

  我相信每个人都有一颗受教之心。关键在于,你什么时候说,或是在什么地方说,对方才听得进耳,进入内心,最后在行为上对你那番话作出正面的表现。

  父母都常给孩子说道理,论是非;有些是无时无刻不在说,事无巨细;有些是择事而论,说重点,评对错。

  “管” 是人们儿时接受的主要教育模式。现在为人父母,面对自己的孩子,是否还能沿用当初父母对我们的管教的方式来管自己的孩子呢?如果你现在事业有成,为人诚信,受人尊敬,人缘极佳,这是否表示父母当初的管教得当,这是你受教之后的正面结果。反过来,如果父母不给予适当管教,你的际遇又会是怎么一番景况?

  不管,是否也是“管教”的方式之一?

   一个不被管教的孩子,会让他觉得这个家不属于他。美国加州大学一项针对孩子自尊心发展进行调查,发现自尊心强的孩子,在家中享有较多的爱,而且被珍惜;父母在管教上比较严格,家庭较民主和开放。因此,只要把行为的界限设定好,孩子较能受教,并在这个范围内自由地培养和发展个性。

  聪明人受教则改。愚顽人匮乏受教之心,遇责就反弹。

  孩子叛逆,顽固惹人生气,但绝对值得父母投下管教的工夫,来擦亮这块宝石。

  面对是否责打孩子的时候,许多父母徘徊在“打或不打”的心理挣扎中;这时,重点不在于要不要打,而是怎么打,为什么而打。孩子在接受体罚的时候,要他在承受疼痛与不服的状态中,立时又要有一颗受教之心,委实不易。想想自己年轻叛逆不懂事给母亲责打,也是满心怨恨,哪里想过要顺服,更不必说“你打得好!”,愿意受教!

  父母管教孩子并无所谓的黄金时间,更不要担心“来不及”而选择放弃。从小奠定好品格的基础,适当管教,同时也培养孩子受教之心。如果等到亲子关系已经紧绷,才来要求孩子改变,父母就需要更大的耐心与毅力。

许多父母只是不停地叮咛孩子,自身却没有做,又或者自己做的方式与要求孩子表现的方式不一,所以,这样的要求往往是得不到效果。

  亲子专家认为,不要对孩子有不符年龄的期待,也不让他们有不符年龄的依赖。例如在3岁前,孩子的肌肉发展还不成熟,父母要求孩子不要将食物吃得到处都是,那就是一个不符年龄的期待。但是,如果父母担心孩子吃得很脏乱,就一味喂食,那将是剥夺孩子学习的机会,也将造成孩子有不符年龄的依赖。

  管理于情,受教于心。


轉載自聯合早報
Friday, March 26, 2010

wah seh, got ppl cough until die..
siao liao...

then now its e season of sandstorm again..
& this time round it hits HK and Taiwan.. ><
power siah..
cos i always thought its concentrated at Beijing/ S Korea area there
speaking of irregualrities..

plus seems like everyone is riding on e 3D fever..
almost all blockbuster got 3D format..
still wondering if i shall watch tt cartoon in 3D..
but its by Dreamworks not Pixar leh..
upcoming is Clash of the Titans..
heard its not worth to watch in 3D though..
cos its filmed in 2D first then use computer skills to make it into 3D, unlike Avatar..
hmmm
Monday, March 22, 2010

Musical Monday


haiz, wat is happening to liverpool??
utterly disappointed..

& my slight sore throat evolves to become a bad cough liao..
stupid shit..

no more hectic sleeping hours for these few days liao

but i still nid to do out the Bintan trip slides..
tonight burn liao..
then wed also cant rest..jialat..
Sunday, March 21, 2010

went bintan without going to the beach.. =.="

& for e second time, met someone i know when on i set off..
great mind think alike? lolz

stupid weather..
rain non stop when i was there..
but at least the ppl i went with were a fun bunch.. =P

& for a short while, the night sky in bintan is fantastic!!!
woot~~
but it rained shortly after..
reminds me of e geminids night in ECP

but at least i went for the massage...
not too bad & quite cheap too..
perhaps next time shd realli go batam to jus shop + massage + play sea sports/go kart/paintball.. lolz..

then realise there is a factory outlet in bintan called the real badung factory outlet..
dun find it big though it claim tt its e largest apparel outlet in bintan
bintan is jus not a place for shopping..
however manage to buy a Guess watch at an incredibly cheap price..
keeping my fingers crossed tt its authentic =D
Saturday, March 20, 2010

Food For Thought

快与慢

张曦娜

  它更深的意涵是一种生活方式和生活态度,主张生活应从食物开始,放慢速度好好享受身边的一切。

城中眼

  还在不久前,有人告诉我,“慢”是时下流行的新时尚。可年前到一家酒店餐馆做访问,见识到的却是我们周遭“快”的生活文化。

  那是个午餐工作访问,接待我和同事的两位酒店经理,一边陪着我们试菜,一边忙着回答我们的问题,一有空档,其中一位公关经理连忙低着头,快速的触动着手中的黑莓手机,忙着回复邮件。

  “这么忙……”我说。

  “一些信件必须立刻回应……”公关经理的笑容透着些许无奈。

  黑莓手机最近这阵子吸引了一群求新的手机玩家,但依我理解,与其说“黑莓”是手机,更像是同时也具备了电话功能的便携式电子邮件配备,甚或超小型电脑。我想起了朋友告诉我的,“黑莓”之所以在欧美掀起热潮,其商务功能居功很大,最大的方便是提供了收发邮件的功能,用户可直接与电脑互发电子邮件,叫企业公司的高级人员可以随时随地处理信息和信件,不论身处何地,都仿佛有了一间无形的“流动办公室”。就像接待我们的公关经理,因为有了“黑莓”,不得不即时处理掉一些信息。

  那天访问结束后,我们闲聊了几句,话题围绕着“流动办公”,餐馆经理说起了近日常见的现象,一些常客吃午餐时不像过去一般专心享用,经常是边吃边触动着手机……这究竟是不是好现象?我们当然都没有答案。

  回公司的路上,我自己因为惦记着该交的稿,一边加快着车速,一边想起了几年前一度掀起风潮的“慢活”主义,还有,上世纪在意大利发起的“慢食”运动。

记者出身的卡尔·欧诺黑(Carl Honore)因2004年推出著作《慢活》(In Praise of Slow)而声名大噪,他从多方面分析放慢生活步伐的好处,鼓倡慢食、慢工、慢动、慢疗、慢闲运动;《慢活》问世后,在崇拜速度的年代里,很快获得认同,一些被快速文化搞得昏头转向的读者形容读了此书仿佛如沐春风,造成此书在短时间内译成数十种语言在全球热卖,卡尔·欧诺黑也俨然慢活代言人。

  卡尔·欧诺黑认为,当下的世界:“不断想用更少时间做更多事的执著心态,已经太过度了,甚至已经变成一种瘾,一种盲目的崇拜。即使速度开始产生反效果,仍坚守‘还要更快’的信条。”

  欧诺黑表明自己写这本书的目的并非“对速度宣战”。但“有些事情却是不能也不应该加快速度,而是需要花费时间,需要慢慢来。当你让不该加速的事情加速了,当你忘记如何放慢脚步,你就得付出一定的代价”。

  依欧诺黑看,“慢活便是平衡——该快则快,能慢则慢,尽量以音乐家所谓的Tempo Giusto(正确的速度)生活。”

  上世纪八十年代,意大利专栏作家卡罗·佩屈尼(Carlo Petrini)有一回经过罗马西班牙广场新开业的麦当劳门口,看到几十名学生津津有味的大啖汉堡,那一刻,他在大为震惊之余,于1986年联合数十位罗马和米兰的知识分子提倡具有社会意识的慢食运动(slow food movement)。慢食运动后来影响了欧美各国,全世界超过120个国家相继成立了国际慢食协会,国际总部设在意大利一个名叫布拉的小镇,会标是一只既象征缓慢,也象征美食的蜗牛。

  但“慢食”说的不仅仅是吃东西的速度,也不是“速食”的对立。所谓“Slow Food”也不是“Slow Eat”。它更深的意涵是一种生活方式和生活态度,主张生活应从食物开始,放慢速度好好享受身边的一切。因为,怎么吃,就是怎么生活。以慢慢吃为开始,为的是“反抗快节奏的生活”。

  欧诺黑说,今日全世界的人都罹患了时间病,盲目崇拜速度。他的这番话颇叫我深思:“人类进化的原则是适者生存,而不是快者生存。别忘了,龟兔赛跑的结果是谁赢了?当我们匆忙度日,将每个时刻塞得更满的同时,也将自己绷到了极限。”

  欧诺黑的苦口婆心会不会徒劳无功?你说呢?而我,和大多数人一样,为了稻梁谋经常身不由己。


轉載自聯合早報
Tuesday, March 16, 2010

sick..
not again..
& this time round, i realli dunno who is e culprit.. =P

super sianz man..
esp when i nid to set off to bintan on fri
& then when i sick it last for a few days

plus its 2nd time like tt liao.. =.="
Monday, March 15, 2010

Musical Monday

Sunday, March 14, 2010

somehow tends to forget to blog about F1..

finally F1 is starting the 1st race of e yr later!!

foresee an exciting season ahead..

jus hope tt it wont end up like last yr, become too one sided..

but this yr cant see Kimi liao.. *sob sob*




then these few days finally raining..

but why do i feel so sticky and men(1) even during e rain?? hmm

seriously think i eat too much during e past week..

frens who went out with me were shocked with e amt i ate..

& right now im eating supper.. =P

jia lat, i think i might go broke one day cos spend too much on food.. lolz..




& finally i got to sit down n select e photos i wanna develop..

seems like i belongs to e conventional type tt will prefer to feel e photo with my hand..

BUT big damages to my wallet man!!

500+ photos tt i hav/will be developing & all these are taken in e course of a mere 1.5 yrs!!

and as almost all ppl do, i dun develop all photos i took..

plus i haven go choose which taiwan photos i wanna develop..
took a whopping of 800+ photos! >.<
n i think max i will onli develop 250..


seems like i dun wanna develop photos taken from this yr onwards liao..

easily e expense can hit 3 digit siah..



MUST work harder to earn more!!!

my finances are realli going to be very dry...
Saturday, March 13, 2010

Food For Thought

趁早

应磊

  一个膜拜青春的世界所制造的恐慌,并不只有那些不再青春的人才感觉得到。当年龄日渐演变成一种禁忌,便与那个数字本身,越来越不成比例。

  年前系里聚会,与一位同是做现代文学的师兄聊天,聊着聊着,聊起八零后、九零后最新一代作家的作品。他读到的是诗,我翻过一些小说,但我们获得的印象近乎一致:概括地说,是工细有余,精炼不足;耽于审美,逊在底蕴。说得直白一点,是不乏才情,却未到火候。

  “我一直怀疑,”师兄突然说, “不少年轻的写作人,被张爱玲那一句话给害了。”

  我登时会意。张氏名言,“出名要趁早”。

  一个文学天才的价值观,是否如其小说世界一样令人流连叹服,的确可疑。然而隔了半个世纪,一个动荡年代的天才的不讲理,不偏不倚叩中时下人的心,追根究底,恐怕还是一缕绵延的时间焦虑——即使此刻现世安稳,哪怕我辈并非天才。

  “趁早”:同是八十年代出生,我知道,我与我的同龄人暗暗负荷着这样一种时间焦虑,看似不着痕迹,却是如影随形;何止眉头心头,早已深入骨髓。比如说,不知自什么时候开始,再也无法像从前那样,以一种单纯的喜悦,盼望过生日那一天的到来。过年的时候,总是在最后一声爆竹留下的火硝味里,嗅到空气里静静弥漫着的,年华逝水的忧惧。在职场,当我看到一些年过半百的人们不得不接受的命运,我唯有相信,随着时间推移,类似的场景只会更早地降临到我这一代人头上……我以为,一个膜拜青春的世界所制造的恐慌,并不只有那些不再青春的人才感觉得到。当年龄日渐演变成一种禁忌,便与那个数字本身,越来越不成比例。

  关于流年,关于时间,像那匹在过河以前碰到松鼠又碰到老牛的小马,我想起我的父母,他们带给我两种截然不同的观念。

  我决定出国那一年,母亲很焦虑,她说,去国外读书要降一级,你要比你的同学迟一年进大学呢……到我大学毕业,打算先工作几年再说,母亲又很担忧:你准备什么时候才去深造呢?你同届的同学,不久就要读到硕士学位了……后来等我觉得积累了足够的经验,决定辞职去读研究院的时候,母亲又说,啊,那个谁谁的女儿,比你还小,已经快要生宝宝了……

  父亲则是另一种态度。他说,迟一两年进大学有什么关系?到头来算算,不过比人家少工作两年罢了。我从小学到大学,父亲总是说,你不出校门哪里懂得社会,光读书哪能读明白人生?因为他老这么说,我一毕业就等不及想工作,想尝尝校园以外的“社会”的滋味。到后来,慢慢有了经验,可父亲还有一句话让我永远无法辩驳:有些事情,他说,你不到那个年纪,不能体会。

若说母亲多虑,每每忍不住提醒我,“即使穿上新鞋也赶不上了”,那么在父亲看来,“趁早”从来就不是应对的逻辑。人生不是一场时光中的赛跑,而是一场时光本身的交易——言何先后迟早?

  每到旧历年的时候,就会想起在过去这一年,甚至过去这么些年来,我都拿我的时间去交换了一些什么,以及接下来要交换些什么。年纪稍长,有些话埋在心里,仿佛不知如何对父母提起,比如我一直很想告诉母亲,迟几年拿到学位,却早早换得独自在远方生活的经验,换得一段职场人生,我觉得这样挺好;我也很想告诉父亲,我越来越明白他所说的,不到一定年纪,有些事情不能体会。一如这些年读书,从文学到宗教,愈发揣摩到文辞之外、故事之外、才情之外的,底蕴,火候,分量,境界。除了用时间和生命去交换以外,无法获得的东西。或许正因为背负着关于时间的焦虑,所以要更加勇敢地去交换 ——至于这一番易手,换得什么,是如人饮水,冷暖自知。



轉載自聯合早報
Thursday, March 11, 2010

never realise jack neo can become tiger woods no 2.. lolz..

but leads me to a qn: is it a guy's inert ability to flirt around/one leg step 2 boats??
Wednesday, March 10, 2010

wah, too mani sales coming up liao lah..
body shop, C&K, Kate Spade etc
plus IT show
then ning asking me to go shopping again..
Tuesday, March 09, 2010

有多少人愿意等待, 有多少人值得等待。。。


真的不知下一步該怎麽走。。。。
Monday, March 08, 2010

Musical Monday




노영심 - 그리움만 쌓이네


this song has been on my mind for the past few days..

beautiful song...
Sunday, March 07, 2010

jus when im thinkin of getting a laptop, my phone is giving me probs..

haiz..

so mani places nid money..

& i seriously dunno wat phone model to get.. now quite scared of HTC liao..

Food For Thought

地震心震

吴庆康

  不论是想还是不想,我们都只有一个解决方案:面对;希望那不是生活上的不治之症,能有机会重新再来。

接二连三的地震,不仅震倒了建筑、生活、生命,也震倒了人心。

我没有遭遇过地震,记忆中只有很多年前在台湾花莲有过一次小经历,但当时根本不知道是地震,感觉摇晃后继续在酒店倒头大睡,第二天才发现自己侥幸无穿无烂。

从电视新闻画面看重创的灾区,不能想象实际情况有多糟,但可以想象的是,被震倒的建筑和被震碎的人心,怎样都得花很长的时间来复原。

尤其是被震碎的心。

和地震一样,生活中有很多事情会突如其来,在完全没有预料到的情况下发生。好事当然无妨,坏事则让人无法招架不知所措。一场毫无征兆的病痛,一次完全没有心机的误会,一场躲不过的车祸/空难,一种根本不想的过失,一段不该失去的恋情,都是强度可大可小的心头震撼。

我们这种幸运生长在没有什么天灾地区的“好命”人,很难体会那种隔天醒来突然少了一臂一腿,失去至亲,或失去自己的悲痛。只有亲自经历过面对过这样的心震,才知道何谓彷徨无助,寝食都难,因为突然失去的不仅是身外物和熟悉的面孔,还可能失去信心和自我。

不论你有多希望可以躲在一个没有人看得见的漆黑角落,不论你有多希望黎明永远不要到来,一旦你清醒,千头万绪仍然会在心中缠结,只要心震残留的残垣断壁仍在,就得想办法清理,要不然之后所走的路就会坎坷难行,一路都将是荆棘。

关键是要怎样才可以从生活的灾难中找到扶持重新站起。不论所面对的困难有多严重多糟糕,不论是想还是不想,我们都只有一个解决方案:面对;希望那不是生活上的不治之症,能有机会重新再来。

在这种时候,谁可以伸出援手都是恩人。幸运的是,每当不同地区有重大灾难,总会有搭救者,从国家元首、慈善机构、演艺界,以至远在世界另一端的街头市民,严格来说虽然毫不相关,但却又觉得有一种扯不开的牵连。

试过在外国一些城市将身上的一些零钱给了在街头乞求的流浪者,感觉很复杂,甚至有点错乱,不是好心或伟大的问题,而是不信也不忍世界如此不公平,过后觉得积了点德,整晚都睡得比较舒服,也希望不足挂齿的小小举动能让对方的那一夜过得稍微好一点。在很大的程度上,心手相连、有钱出钱、有力出力、有心出心,基本上可能是人与人之间一种藏在内心深处的善缘。

面对不论是来自地震还是心震的受创,我们也许真的毫无选择需要接受事实,在最残酷的现实中帮助彼此勇敢地站起面对,才可以将心震余碎一片片地重新捡起,逐个清理,一点一点将明天重新拼凑。

衷心祝福所有身心曾经被震过的人,让我们一起相信明天会更好。



轉載自聯合早報
Saturday, March 06, 2010

the mag freebies giveaway is making a comeback..

jus got e Steady mag with a free Agnes b lunch tote jusb4 CNY..
though kind of disappointed cos e dimensions stated on e mag cover seems like its bigger than e other tote bag they gave out last yr..
but in e end still same size..

then esther also got inform me abt e Lofficiel mag which gave away French eyeshadow last yr is giving out quad eyeshadow for e Mar issue and pre-order is ava and is delivered right to my doorstep..

so last week i went on to order 2 copies even though my eyeshadow is still quite well stocked.. =P
& I forgot totally about it until jus now my sis were like 'sis, did u ordered some mag?'
they were quite fast!!
& i totally love this service though e postage is $1 each
at least i now dun nid to go to all e convenience stores in e city area to search for the colours i wanted.. hehe











furthermore i went sample shopping (from Fr3b.com) recently too and got a num of samples to try..
but after sampling quite a num, i find tt e sample size are usu too small to actualli see any results..
or maybe my face slow reaction? =P






& jus saw from tualobang that this yr ben & jerry free cone day is quite early this yr.. on 23 Mar!! yay!! time for free ice cream.. haha


then one more news tt got me excited is that e Universal Studio Singapore will be opening its door on 18 Mar!!
saw some photos preview b4 n some parts certainly looks like USJ!
& e exclusive attractions sure looks interesting

now dunno if i shd get e annual pass
cos cfm cant cover all in 1 day

when i was in USJ, we merely picked those that we like to try and the queue at e rollercoaster is so long tt we queued for more than 30 min!!
most prob will end up waiting time longer than playing time

but perhaps i shd get it next yr instead when e Transformer attraction is open.. lolz


finally there is this hoo haa of Mio TV subscribers encountering problem in e TV n assessing e net..
lucky siah..
cos though im under Mio plan, mine din hav Mio TV..
its home line + hp + broadband instead
guess its not e first time Singtel screw up, cos at times my frens are complaining how come i keep on dc from MSN & i din even realise until they told me.. *dots*
but this time round like quite serious.. both e extent n scale..
dunno how mani customers they are gonna lose from this epi..

last yr e scholar of all major exams are all foreigners..
is it cos local students too slack or foreigners too qiang??

& seems like NJ lost e num 1 spot in Maths liao..
Friday, March 05, 2010

driest Feb for Spore in 140 yrs..
then jus heard Taiwan got a major earthquake which makes it one major earthquake per month now..

wat is happening to Mother Earth??

2010 - a yr of earthquakes or worse still, natural disasters??
Thursday, March 04, 2010

age is slowly but surely catching up on me..
haiz..
Wednesday, March 03, 2010

never underestimate an open wound.. took ages and still haven heal plus a high of possibility of scarring.. =.="

high chance will tio nag by mum liao..

OMG weather..
last time used to be Apr then super hot..
right now onli Feb/Mar i alr bth

& for gurls, a time for rejoice..
cos now got a super good excuse to go shopping!
sleeveless tops, light coloured tops.. lolz..

esther was jus mentioning over e wkend tt im like quite into white currently..
hmm quite true, now im a fan of white + pink + purple.. haha..
time to grow my collection?
but i onli got 1 body.. =P
Tuesday, March 02, 2010

its alr e start of March..
2 mths jus gone like tt..
cant help but get quite emo..
can time move a bit slower??


& foresee a busy month ahead..
Monday, March 01, 2010

Musical Monday






下一个天亮
郭静


作词:姚若龙
作曲:陈小霞


用起伏的背影 挡住哭泣的心
有些故事 不必说给 每个人听
许多眼睛 看的太浅太近
错过我没被看见 那个自己

用简单的言语 解开超载的心
有些情绪 是该说给 懂的人听
你的热泪 比我激动怜惜
我发誓要更努力 更有勇气

等 下一个天亮
去上次牵手赏花那里散步好吗
有些积雪会自己融化
你的肩膀是我豁达的天堂

等下一个天亮
把偷拍我看海的照片送我好吗
我喜欢我飞舞的头发
和飘着雨还是眺望的眼光


用简单的言语 解开超载的心
有些情绪 是该说给 懂的人听
你的热泪 比我激动怜惜
我发誓要更努力 更有勇气

等 下一个天亮
去上次牵手赏花那里散步好吗
有些积雪会自己融化
你的肩膀是我豁达的天堂

等下一个天亮
把偷拍我看海的照片送我好吗
我喜欢我飞舞的头发
和飘着雨还是眺望的眼光

时间可以磨去我的棱角
有些坚持却永远磨不掉
请容许我 小小的骄傲
因为有你这样的依靠

等 下一个天亮
去上次牵手赏花那里散步好吗
有些积雪会自己融化
你的肩膀是我豁达的天堂

等下一个天亮
把偷拍我看海的照片送我好吗
我喜欢我飞舞的头发
和飘着雨还是眺望的眼光