爱那么重
巫启贤

该不会就此结束
就此分手
爱却分明还没到尽头
会不会难以割舍
欲走还留
我们已坚持太久

是否你没有把握
而有所保留
我却为你放弃了自我
是否我给你太快
给你太多
心甘情愿犯下的错

爱那么重
爱那么痛
给我再多勇气也没有用
对你再坏
对你再好
这一切再也不能阻止你逃

爱那么重
爱那么痛
给我再多承诺也只是空
如果太苦
把我忘掉
一颗心只求你真的明了

该不会就此结束
就此分手
爱却分明还没到尽头
会不会难以割舍
欲走还留
我们已坚持太久

是否你没有把握
而有所保留
我却为你放弃了自我
是否我给你太快
给你太多
心甘情愿犯下的错

爱那么重
爱那么痛
给我再多勇气也没有用
对你再坏
对你再好
这一切再也不能阻止你逃

爱那么重
爱那么痛
给我再多承诺也只是空
如果太苦
把我忘掉
一颗心只求你真的明了

情再深
也不能改变些什么
情再浓
也不能解开这爱的枷锁

爱那么重
爱那么痛
给我再多勇气也没有用
对你再坏
对你再好
这一切再也不能阻止你逃

爱那么重
爱那么痛
给我再多承诺也只是空
如果太苦
把我忘掉
一颗心只求你真的明了

爱那么重
爱那么痛
给我再多勇气也没有用
对你再坏
对你再好
这一切再也不能阻止你逃

爱那么重
爱那么痛
给我再多承诺也只是空
如果太苦
把我忘掉
一颗心只求你真的明了

如果太苦
把我忘掉
一颗心只求你真的明了

Scribbled by JuN at {12:49 am}

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screwed up my sudoku semi finals.. =(
got one puzzle right only after e 3rd try..
& with the criteria basing mostly on how fast u complete, i can kiss my sudoku final bye bye le..
& i wonder how ppl can do so fast..
when im just at my 2nd puzzle, i saw ppl leaving le.. OMG..
perhaps i shdnt take part in any competition tt emphasis FAST.. more or less not going to win one..
haiz..
try again next yr ba.. ^^

Scribbled by JuN at {8:58 am}

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小家子气
吴庆康

最怕生性小家子气心胸狭窄的人，处世态度不大方磊落，不认同他人之余，还欲将别人“同化”，而且容易不悦，做朋友有点辛苦。指的不只是女人，男人也一样。

算账

一起到外头用餐，最麻烦的是什么账都算到一清二楚，几个人吃，最终结账不能少一分一毛，甚至得向餐厅交代分开两张或多张信用卡结账。钱财清楚划分本来是好事，但小小数目实在不必那么计较，让人觉得不自在，菜都不敢多叫。

吝啬

一行人合资买礼物送老板／同事／朋友，算账之际当场说：“哗，这么贵？可以便宜一点吗？”，显示你吝啬的心态和处世待人的“诚意”。你怎么对人，人家最终也会这么对你。当然，如果你可以不在乎那就无所谓。

怨恨(1)

出席服装秀盛宴，因为没有被安排坐在第一排观赏，怨恨主办单位“降低”自己的身份，当场脸黑铭记在心，策划“抵制”行动，举止不大方。I mean，要发飚也应该暗地进行，保持仪态是很重要的。

怨恨(2)

富太到高档服装店二话不说找来售货员一巴掌打过去，凶巴巴责问对方为何会有另一富太买了同样的服装，令她们在同一场合“撞衫”出丑，这就是一山不能藏二（恶）虎。

怨恨(3)

在公众场合看见有服务生殷勤问自己的老公是否需要点什么，觉得受“威胁”，狭窄的心胸觉得不能与别人在任何程度上“共享”自己的“财产”，于是也是一巴掌过去。当然没有考虑到后果，即使有，当时也可能“我不管”，先出了气再说。

转载自联合早报

怕输

不愿吃亏，所以做什么事，尤其是牵涉到钱，一定要“划算”。逛街购物，$50的东西不买，偏偏要买$200的。Why?因为$50的产品没有优惠，$200的产品原价$400，还有赠品，所以比较值得，即使$50的东西其实更有实际用途也更便宜，也爽。

恶毒

被揭发工作上有疏漏，第一个反应不是为自己辩护，而是马上将其他人也拉下水，是那种宁愿找人陪葬也不要一个人死的恶毒心态，死后还拼命问“ Why Me?为什么不是他他他？”

鸵鸟

团队因内部纠纷，上头忽视队员的功绩，想尽各种原因措词来否认所有贡献，不提名不颁奖不认同，即使全世界都清醒，还是陶醉在自己的美梦中。以为不言不语沉默是金，可能是哑口无言，鸵鸟心态。

强灌

无法宽容接纳不同观点、态度、习惯、生活方式，认为人生必须是一加一等于二，于是用尽各种手段强将自己的那一套“灌”在别人身上，变相洗脑。

小家子气很容易变成心胸狭窄，一点小事永记于心成为心头大恨，不管你用什么大道理来支撑自己的所作所为，都无法让人信服，最终吃亏的是自己，因为渐渐不会有人认同你的自我主义，以及不顾大局。

当然，找得到同类则另当别论。

轉載自聯合早報

Scribbled by JuN at {7:50 pm}

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走在阳光里
林慧萍
作词:赵晓君
作曲:陈复明

(对白)亲爱的朋友从往昔到现在
三年了好快
我很珍惜这段拥有你们的日子
我常感到白己是那麽样幸运
许多朋友给我关怀
你们知道吗
那种感觉暖暖的温馨的就像走在阳光里

走在阳光里
身边有个你
你说好喜欢这样的天气
能在一起

写在日记里
心里好想你
如果下着雨
也要等着你

喔～喔～

曾经一切不在意的阳光和小雨
为什麽不能再继续美丽
阳光和小雨都再也不熟悉
只是一张张飘落的日历

走在阳光里
走在小雨里
偶然我会想起
从前的天气

走在阳光里
身边有个你
你说好喜欢这样的天气
能在一起

写在日记里
心里好想你
如果下着雨
也要等着你

喔～喔～

曾经一切不在意的阳光和小雨
为什麽不能再继续美丽
阳光和小雨都再也不熟悉
只是一张张飘落的日历

走在阳光里
走在小雨里
偶然我会想起
从前的天气

曾经一切不在意的阳光和小雨
为什麽不能再继续美丽
阳光和小雨都再也不熟悉
只是一张张飘落的日历

一切不在意的阳光和小雨
为什麽不能再继续美丽
阳光和小雨都再也不熟悉
只是一张张飘落的日历

Scribbled by JuN at {1:43 am}

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最棒工作
吴庆康

　　3万4684人申请“世界最棒工作”，到澳大利亚的大堡礁当“岛屿看守者”，本地有三人的申请入围，羡煞旁人。这份工作当然是优差，因为基本上是“游山玩水”，与他人分享看守大堡礁体验之余，还有15万5000元的薪水。

但是不是每个人都会将这视为最棒的工作呢？未必，因为很多事情都是相对的，而且工钱，甚至是性质都未必是关键因素。

对没有工作，尤其是失去工作的人来说，最棒的工作是要有工作，可以是任何工作。

对需要一天几次清洗恶臭公厕的洗厕工人来说，最棒的工作是不必再洗厕所，只需要坐在公厕外收钱卖纸巾。对每天从早到晚坐在恶臭的公厕外收钱“听人如厕”的看厕老妇来说，最棒的工作是远离恶臭，在公厕附近的小贩中心走来走去卖纸巾，或收拾／清洗碗碟。

对 每天得弯腰蹲着将手浸泡在油渣与清洗液参杂的污水中清洗没完没了的碗碟的清洁工人来说，最棒的工作是可以找个摊位卖些小吃并可以请人来洗碗碟。对天天得在 没有冷气只有油烟的小贩中心卖面的小贩来说，最棒的工作是可以在冷气咖啡店当煮炒厨师。对每天只能在咖啡店厨房煮炒的厨师来说，最棒的工作是自己开高档餐 厅当明星厨师。

对明星厨师来说，最棒的工作是可以经常到不同餐厅试菜，不必一身油烟就可以舒服享用美味佳肴的饮食记者。对天天得面对截稿时间，面对找不到访问对象／题材压力，以及面对“资料错误”的媒体记者来说，最棒的工作是可以自由自在在天涯海角，当个天天有人感激的义工。

对看遍人间冷暖的义工来说，最棒的工作是有能力援救生命、满足感满溢的无国界医生。对无国界医生来说，最棒的工作是不再看到残心残肢只有欢笑声的游乐场服务人员的工作。

对经常得看人脸色面对无理取闹客人的服务人员来说，最棒的工作是公司有一批跑腿可以吩咐与呼喝，有漂亮女秘书侍候，住家有游艇的大公司总裁。

对日理万机肩膀上扛着亿万账面财富，却因一时的贪念所误，从原本一年可分几百万花红到锒铛入狱的总裁来说，最棒的工作是可以远离股市，不必为了钱落到如此下场的任何白领，甚至是蓝领工作。

对曾经犯错而得“面壁思过”的蓝领工人或白领职员来说，最棒的工作是在可以看到舒服的床、豪华的浴室的五星级酒店担任酒店员工。对酒店员工来说，最棒的工作是可以经常出国公干，看遍世界的旅游业者。

对 旅游业者来说，最棒的工作是只需要游玩，不必照顾形形色色团友，能与一家大小一起出游的家庭主妇。对家庭主妇来说，最棒的工作是当个可以天天逛街购物买名 牌的富太。对夫妻感情越来越淡的富太名媛来说，最棒的工作是当个被老板上司宠爱的漂亮女秘书。对（不漂亮的）女秘书来说，最棒的工作是当个不必被老板呼呼 喝喝，什么都不必做的情妇。

对没有东西做的情妇、失业者、被裁者、一天三餐都有问题的人来说，最棒的工作，是要有工作，可以是任何工作。

轉載自聯合早報

Scribbled by JuN at {1:55 am}

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some ppl just hav too much time on their hands..
read a newspaper report abt how Pres Obama killed a fly with one smack and alr thought tt its amusing tt reporters actualli publish it..
but at e same time also admire Obama's skills cos for one, i definitely cant do it..
& i din realise this is onli e preclude..
then jus now i read tt an org called PETA is protesting the act saying that animals have feelings too =.="""

do they realli care for the dead fly or is it a just-for-publicity act?
seriously if one cant even kill a pest, then wat are we supposed to say about eating meat? arent we killing the animals to get their meat too?!

another one is the MRT carriage..
Beijing is now trying to set up a female only carriage in their trains and resulted in some loud protest from the expected males..
guess e males are used to being treated preferentially tts why they unhappy ba.. simply plain MCP.. lolz..

& right now i heard one Jap railway co is planning to introduce a male-only carriage that makes me go a big 'WAT?'
is there realli a need?
if basing on e ground of equality, i tend to think tt it may be stretching things too far cos equality isnt meant to be this way..

& then back in spore, e train operators die die also dun wan to set up a female only carriage..

realli dunno wat ppl are thinking man..

away from current affairs & move on to everyday matters..

hav u ever experience before u still have e mindset of a student even though u r currently working?
in e sense tt when u r shopping, ur shopping habit is still pretty much similar to the days when u r still a student?

im at times guilty of tt..
in the sense tt when i was out shopping these days due to GSS, when i saw sth i will habitually look at e price tag n for quite a few occasions auto start thinking like a student eg 'wa, $20 quite ex leh' without realising tt u r alr working n u prob earn tt $20 by working ard 1.5 hr n tt e $20 prob onli cover ur 1 day food + transport expense..

somehow u tend to gauge everything by price, jus like when u r a student..
but during tt time, its understandable cos u r still depending on parents for allowance/earning merely enough from tuition to cover ur day to day expenses.. so u tend to go for things tt are cheap without much regard on quality..
but why were u thinking e same way even though u r working now?

for me, perhaps im pampered by the cheap online taiwan clothes n im also not e one tt will spend more than $50 on a top (think e max for me now is $40) cos i feel tt e lifespan of clothes can be relatively quite short due to fashion.
but for others like bags, shoes, watches etc i now start to appreciate value buying..
although im still sensitive to price n will onli look at certain brands onli when there is a sale, i wont mind spending more to pamper myself n enjoy e better quality..
eg Nine West pumps is about $85 during a 50% sale.. quite ex but cos its so comfy n chio looking i realli wont mind buying it if not for the height of e heel (its easily 10cm or higher)
however one big prob of me: i tend to hesitate quite a lot before i buy, jus ask anyone who has shopped with me before.. lolz..

n when i thought im bad enough in terms of still sticking to e price-preceeds-everything student's mindset every now n then, i realise some of my frens seems more extreme than me..
eg 1: would rather buy a $10 bag and carry to work instead of a $40 handbag cos why pay so much more when it doesnt make much of a diff?
eg 2: think that $30 for a reputable-brand watch is ex
which realli makes me go 'huh?'
for $30-$40, during normal times u at most can jus get a normal top with avg quality onli lor.. now even This Fashion clothes is ard tt price range..
& now u r paying e same price for better brand and quality n u think its ex/not worth it?

maybe they never own/tried branded goods before to feel/see for themselves the vast difference in appearance/feel/quality.
i used to avoid branded shops too but since window shopping & trying out in store is free plus the curiosity to know e pdt's price range and wat e rich buy makes me pop into them once in a while and realise u get wat u pay for stands absolutely true..
perhaps they also din realise tt spending a bit more on quality can brings u a long way in e climbing of corporate ladder..

not promoting ppl to be spendthrift here and also respecting diff ppl's perception on money and way of spending money..
but merely to remind ppl to see things in perspective..
if u r currently a working adult with financial power, high time to go for better pdts n e qn asked when shopping ought to be 'is this item worth e price?' and not just 'wat's e price ah?'

then coming to me, i hav 3 person commenting to me this week that i dun look my age..
1 thought i not yet 21, 1 thought im still an undergrad, n last one thought i jus finish my poly studies.. *diaoz*
do i hav a baby face tts why ppl tend to think im jus 20/21 when im alr 24?
or is it due to e way i speak/behave?
but if e earlier situation, i do hope tt this situation can carry on cos i certainly dun mind when ppl think im jus 25/26 when im 30.. haha

Scribbled by JuN at {10:43 pm}

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realise i haven blog about CJ's wedding dinner plus gor's wedding dinner..

these 2 yrs, have been receiving quite a num of red bombs..
alr attended 2 this yr..

know another 2 more frens getting married this yr but think they wont invite me cos not close with them..
then expected a cousin to get married this yr..

next yr confirm got one fren gettng married..

jus dun ask me when is my turn.. =P

well,
i realise for every wedding dinner, there is a target tt everyone will arrow..
for gor's wedding, of course its gor la.. lolz

i even mix the ingredients, practice what i learnt from charles' wedding dinner to good use..
so wat did i add to the red wine?
let me see: chilli + soya sauce + vinegar + green tea + white wine + beer..
too bad hard liquor is not ava..
& realise adding vinegar is a bad choice cos one smell and ppl will know something's fishy.. =P

but gor is sporting enough to drink it.. haha!!

& saw a super shui Lamborghini!!
then the parking lot right outside the wedding hall got that Lambor, 2 Porsche and 1 Mercedes..
rich ppl..

then for CJ's wedding dinner..
i must first thank the sun @ Tioman.. lolz..
cos i can wear the dress i bought from Mayuki earlier this yr which i mentioned the colour is rather close to my skin colour..
with the tan i get from Tioman and luckily that it din fade off fast, i dun need to ponder over what to wear.. =P

anyway back to the dinner, the groom is busy until dunno where so some of my colleagues turn their attention to my manager..
but she also veri clever, use me as a shield on several occasions.. *sweat
luckily my colleagues also veri persistent, onli want my manager to drink..
then u can see them 'bargaining'.. haha
in the end, think she drank quite a few glass (got 7 or 8) ba
wonder who's the next target at the next colleague's wedding.. lolz..

photo's time:

Gor's wedding dinner





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CJ's wedding dinner..

Scribbled by JuN at {9:47 pm}

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just got an email from Brands Sudoku informing me that i've qualified for the semi-finals!! ^^
hmm looks like my skills not bad.. lolz..
also quite heng for me.. cos when i was doing e puzzle, dun think its a difficult one but it still took me like 12 min to finish it n back then i was like 'hmm, timing like quite slow leh'...
but then hor, e date of e semi is 27/6 5.30pm leh.. sianz.. i harbouring of going ktv then leh...
think in this case nid to put on 28/6 liao lor.. see how ba.. still nid to see which date others prefer 1st..
& right now also thinking of going for e mediacorp sudoku challenge @ Sqaure 2 this coming weekend..
so now i nid to practise more sudokus!! =P

& anyone like to participate in Botak Massive Eating Contest?
seems like i quite into contest/competition/challenge lately.. hahah
wanted to join leh but im not a fast eater.. can eat a lot la but is slow one..
entry fee is $10 which i find it worthwhile leh cos e burger is huge!!
but i also dun wanna get bashed up from others saying why i eat so slow still go take part.. heh..
more info here: http://www.botakjones.com/blog/?page_id=164
so shd i or shd i not??

Scribbled by JuN at {11:43 pm}

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你家大门
凤飞飞

想敲开你家大门 你家大门
你听了电铃声
别让我站在门外
六神无主地来回徘徊
你有些不应该

想敲开你家大门 你家大门
你听了电铃声
别让我站在门外
六神无主地来回徘徊
你有些不应该

嘿 你是否 听到了电铃的声
却故意试我的耐心
嘿 我对你的坦诚 你要坚定 你要镇定

请打开你家大门 你家大门
我又按了电铃声
也许我不应该来
也许你不在
只好离开
眼泪差点掉下来

嘿 你是否 听到了电铃的声
却故意试我的耐心
嘿 我对你的坦诚 你要坚定 你要镇定

请打开你家大门 你家大门
我又按了电铃声
也许我不应该来
也许你不在
只好离开
眼泪差点掉下来

想敲开你家大门 你家大门
你听了电铃声
别让我站在门外
六神无主地来回徘徊
你有些不应该

想敲开你家大门 你家大门
你听了电铃声
别让我站在门外
六神无主地来回徘徊
你有些不应该

嘿 你是否 听到了电铃的声
却故意试我的耐心
嘿 我对你的坦诚 你要坚定 你要镇定

请打开你家大门 你家大门
我又按了电铃声
也许我不应该来
也许你不在
只好离开
眼泪差点掉下来

我只好默默离开
往那一条回家路上
我却看见 你就在我家门外

Scribbled by JuN at {12:34 am}

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下一次
桂心

　　小孩子请求父母买玩具或零食时，我们最常用以敷衍的回应大概是“下一次吧!”面对不愿意承受的人事时，我们最佳用以抵抗的盾牌想必是“下一次吧!”

　　小时候，我总是懵懵懂懂的，而心中的诸多好奇与疑问，总是被大人们以“下一次”作为篙竿，悬挂在遥不可及的半空中，即使逐年长高了，仍然没有将之摘下的机会。为什么总是得有“下一次”，而不是这一次？是因为这次还没有准备就绪吗？还是因为现在没有时间或心思应对呢？

　 　人生既是先经历了分离，才有下一次的聚首。时空也总得跨越了黑夜，才有下一次的破晓。“下一次”成为尘缘的分水岭，未知的人事只能留待下回分解。而我只 是担心，无数次使用“下一次”的魔法终究交换了什么，却也错失了什么？岁月可以附赠我们多少“下一次”？这一次是第一次吗？下一次将是最后一次吗？无论如 何深具信心或忐忑不安，没有人确切得知，将来可否会有“下一次”。这句话既没有许诺未来，也没有表明立场。

　　“下一次”是最婉约的拒绝，也是最迂回的答复。它不如诺言庄严凝重，也没有预言神秘绮丽。然而，对于“下一次”既没有千丝万缕的牵绊，也没有言出必行的责任，我们这一次可能就不会全力以赴。

　 　曾经沧海难为水，因而有些人事将不会有“下一次”的兑现。一旦没有“下一次”的退路，仅只是就这一次而背水一战，我们才会对每次的相遇相识，如掌上明珠 般弥足珍惜。“下一次”是对命运赌注的加倍筹码，也是考验人事的关口。当别人对我说“下一次”时，我应该默然接受，还是扬声抗议？当我对别人说“下一次” 时，这个“下一次”只是匆匆路过的风景，或是从容等待的终点？

　　若你这么问我，我只能回答：“下一次吧!”

轉載自聯合早報

Scribbled by JuN at {12:16 am}

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got money = can do anything??
this is a realli old time fave debate qn & i cant help but wonder about it lookin at e soccer scene now..

there was a time which Real Madrid seems like e team to 'siam' cos e team has lots of star studded players eg zidane, beckham etc.. but e cute thing is their resutls, be it domestic or international is not fantastic..

then there comes Chelsea..
& i rem it is e time which i actualli rooted for Man U to challenge Chelsea cos Liverpool is nowhere in sight..
reason being, they are good just bcos they got e $$ to buy e good players wat.. so wat's there to be proud of??
then Chelsea also din maintain in top form for long..

right now i dunno why Real Madrid is repeating history to spend tons of $$$ to buy certain football stars.. haven they learnt from past experience? if they realli got too much $$$ n dunno how to spend, can give me some? lolz...

another news tt caught my eyes for this week is China's version of A level..

rem e time when i realli hated studying n grumbled why qin shi huang din burnt all e books, never have i thought of ripping e books apart aft exam.. at most jus throw it away so as never to see them again..

but e students there go one up.. tearing e books right in front of the teachers etc right aft exam n let e flying papers landed all over e sch..
how much hatred do u need to accumulate before engaging in such drastic action?!?

exam stress.. all of us hav been thro, done tt.. so needless to say here..
& for East Asian countries whose emphasis is still largely on academic results, e stress level of students are definitely higher than tt of spore..
korean one is realli extreme.. push back working hours of adults by one hour so tt candidates wont get stuck in jams, parents kneeling n praying for their child/children in temple/churches..
then now e chinese one is tearing books..
dunno which is worse?

education is meant for ppl to gain knowledge to be a better person and also used e knowledge one acquire to contribute to society..
since when this objective becomes so twisted?!?
& since students now find studying a chore/ hated to e core, what hav they learnt in the past 9-12 yrs??

wont it be better if there are alternatives for students to choose?
having a uniform exam is not wrong, in fact i like it as it prevents dispute resulting from differing standards from schools..
but it ought not to be e case tt this exam will determine e rest of one's life..
its alr e 21st century, all roads ought to lead to Rome.. Uni is no longer e sole route

but guess unless e govt takes e lead to change e education sys, it will be realli tough to change this entrenched mindsets of millions in Asia..
even then, no guarantee of success too..
look at spore now..
has been advocating 'teach less, learn more' for 3-4 yrs le but seems like its e perfect excuse for parents to pack their child(ren) timetable with loads of extra lessons/enrichment course etc so need to learn more mah... =.="

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went east coast for grp event jus now and e fun & creative side of us were brewing and hence took quite a num of photos tt i dun think i will take.. =D
& boy, these actually are rather time consuming cos team co-ooperation is required..
aft countless NGs, we completed the task but realise the photos not crystal clear cos e ppl are in motion.. =(

okay, lets get e cat out of e bag n look at e various photos!!



this is the 'proper' photo...




here comes e preclude... =D



start jumping!!



how come 2 ppl landed le?? arrghh!!




Larel!!! cos of u, we NG again!!!



still no good.. haiz...



finally!!!! ^^




let's do another one! =)



hmm luckily the tree can stand our weight.. all at one side...



we sure know how to pose ya? =P



aspiring models-to-be.. lolz...

Scribbled by JuN at {3:34 am}

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initially hoping for an exciting race this yr, but seems to be dashed by an ever-consistent button.. actualli thought vettel can stop button this time round but alas this is not to be.. haiz.. interest for F1 definitely waning by e race... can someone, anyone give button a good challenge??

Scribbled by JuN at {10:04 am}

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吴庆康

一个人的底线，最容易在充满机会／诱惑／懵懂／未知的场合显现。

前天在澳门最新开张的娱乐城新濠天地，到赌场玩一玩拉角子机，虽然心中是希望可以拉到额外奖金带走，但知道自己没本钱，只是带着“既然到了赌城不妨玩玩”的心理进场。

不过即使是玩玩，也很容易被诱惑上瘾，总是连本带利丢了出去才甘愿收手。每次拉呀拉，开始总是有些甜头，赢了一点，却觉得还不过瘾，再拉一次，再拉一次，明明知道角子机电脑软件设计的结果是很难让你胜利，还是有种魔力在与你拉扯，结果是把先前赢了少许的都输了回去，开始心有不甘，于是又继续拉，拉呀拉，最后什么都拉完了才悔不当初。

这是赌的唯一结局，所以即使要赌，也得先知道自己的底线在哪里。说好只玩$50，过了那条线就真的得停，要不然绝对会越陷越深，回不了头。我算是很理智的了，当开始输了超过我原先所设的底线以后，我离开了赌场，庆幸自己只输了$50，但后悔在赢了$30的时候没有摆脱诱惑停手。

就因为那一刻我在诱惑之下模糊了自己的底线，以为可以把底线拉长一点，原来不行。

生活中也有很多不同的底线需要我们自己看清，这些底线往往比在赌场被越拉越远的底线还要模糊。

在未遭遇挫折之前，我们总会乐观地以为没有什么事情是不可能的，所以底线设得稍微有伸缩性。

我们以为自己的技术了得，所以在路上飞车，直到发生意外。我们以为年轻力壮，所以总是透支精神和体力来挑战自己的健康，直到病倒。我们以为相爱的人必定对自己无限宽容，所以认为偶尔出轨也只是逢场作戏，直到分手。我们以为运气总是在自己身边，所以在商场上不断投机，直到破产。我们以为一次又一次的走偏门没有人会发现，直到出事。我们总是有太多的以为，在没有出事之前，从来没有料到原来凡事都是有底线的。

特别是面对挚爱，不管那是家人还是你最亲爱的伴侣，不要理所当然认为他们必定会像你拉角子机一样，一次又一次接受／原谅／体谅／放纵你摆出的种种姿态。只要那是不正确的态度，就会有筹码用完的一天，而当你每次都想挑战彼此的底线，那条线将越来越薄，最终必会扯断。

生活中有太多的冒险和挑战，我们其实都应该先知道自己有没有进行冒险的能力，有时候一些所谓的挑战也是需要筹码才可以有能力去进行的，要不然只会输得一败涂地。而一个人的信心在一定的程度上也需要听运气的话，当这两者无法继续合作，意味着你已经走到了底线。

我知道有些人非常愿意挑战尺寸，欺骗他人是一回事，是否过得了自己那一关才是关键。当你拿自己的底线来开玩笑，必定会有一种累积成灾的结果。到了那一天，就算你想回头，那条线也已经松弛得无法归位。

轉載自聯合早報

Scribbled by JuN at {7:09 pm}

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seems like my surrounding ppl are rather lucky recently..
my sis won a Nintendo and when she first got the contest form, she has been saying she will win it.. the can do = can get attitude? hmmm
then ning also got lucky n win e shop for free @ robinsons.. there's only one winner per hour for 4 hour n she's e first winner!! all thanks to her, i got a free umbrella.. =D then we got alot of 'if i've known, jus now i'll go get ...........' lolz.. nevertheless realli happi for her =)
anyway GSS has started le n me & ning hav alr started our shopping spree! within one week i alr got quite a num of items, super jialat!! din intend to shop one cos i alr hav quite a num of clothes from mayuki le but end up couldnt resist e good bargains.. imagine a pair of pants @ $15, a dress going for $28.. couldnt stop shouting 'must buy' in my heart..
hence looking back, im having great value for my money la..
e price level is veri close to taiwan yahoo auction site prices plus better quality.. not tt bad
jus make sure i wear them n nid to work doubly hard to earn back what i've spent shopping.. =D
& i must win e various shopping centres' lucky draw!! lolz..

besides shopping, im now into collecting e mr men little miss hp strap offered by 7-11... ahh.. why 7-11 time to time come up with such promo?? i usu hav little resistance for such cutie stuffs one... oh no, dun think i will give up until i collect e full set.. realli pity my ever shrinking wallet...

back to e current affairs, quite happening recently..

H1N1 finalli reached spore n e cases are increasing fast.. fortunately its not causing nationwide panic.. i believe with standard hygiene practice, we shd be fine..

& now north korea in e limelight at e world stage.. realli couldnt fathom wat e Kim leaders are thinking leh.. korea peninsular is alr e most tragic episode of post WWII history le.. imagine back then, how mani families are forced into seperation, how mani yrs of heart ache for those hav family members in both countries.. 本是同根生，相煎何太急？？　why make a reunion so impossible? although yes, i agree reunion creates its own set of prob, just look at germany.. but also no point making relations on both sides worse rite?
speculation has it tt maybe there is a leadership change soon so north korea now sending warning signal to neighbouring countries not to underestimate/bully north korea - to pave a smoother road for the successor.. but e sucessor is onli my age leh, does he realli has e capability and reputation to lead and rule a country?? with great power comes great responsibility, can he shoulder this task? north korea is alr one of e poorest country for e ppl.. can the leaders focus on economic development more??

i can see with confidence tt e last thing majority of e world population like to see is yet another war..

world peace at times realli seems like a fantasy.. haiz..

Scribbled by JuN at {2:21 am}

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1. Guys don't actually go after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.

2. Guys hate flirts.

3. A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you afterwards.

4. When a guy says he doesn't understand you, it simply means you're not thinking the way he is.

5. "Are you doing something?" or "Have you eaten already?" are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.

6. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.

7. When a guy really likes you, he'll disregard all your bad characteristics.

8. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.

9. Guys will do anything just to get the girl's attention.

10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.

11. When guys want to meet your parents. Let them.

12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can't. And they sure have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking!

13. Guys cry!!!

14. Don't provoke the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will.

15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.

16. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.

17. When you touch a guy's heart, there's no turning back.

18. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...never mind" would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking.

19. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.

20. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.

21. When a guy makes a prolonged "umm" or makes any excuses when you're asking him to do you a favour, he's actually saying that he doesn't like you and he can't lay down the card for you.

22. When a girl says "no", a guy hears it as "try again tomorrow."

23. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.

24. Guys hate gays!

25. Guys love their moms.

26. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.

27. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn't mean that the guy likes her.

28. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.

29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.

30. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.

31. Like Eve, girls are guys' weaknesses.

32. Guys are very open about themselves.

33. Its good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don't let him wait that long.

34. No guy is bad when he is courting

35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.

36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they're not that much pretty.

37. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.

38. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.

39. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

40. A guy finds ways to keep you off from linking with someone else.

41. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts.

42. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl wants but would unluckily get the wrong one.

43. Guys virtually brag about anything.

44. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.

45. Guys think too much.

46. Guys' fantasies are unlimited.

47. Girls' height doesn't really matter to a guy but her weight does!

48. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!!

49. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it would be hard for him to let go of that girl.

50. It's not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up especially when they've been together for 3 years or more.

51. You have to tell a guy what you really want before getting involved with that guy.

52. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he's too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won't be matured and grow up.

53. When an unlikeable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.

54. Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will power.

55. Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed pu**ycats with their girlfriends.

56. When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he's sweating. You'll probably see that he is nervous.

57. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl. He really is.

58. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me"

59. Guys don't really have final decisions.

60. When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him.

61. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him.

62. If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something.

63. Guys believe that there's no such thing as love at first sight, but court the girls anyway and then realize at the end that he is wrong.

64. Guys like femininity not feebleness.

65. Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do.

66. A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him.

67. A guy would waste his time over video games and basketball, the way a girl would do over her romance novels and make-ups.

68. Guys love girls who can cook or bake.

69. Guys like girls who are like their moms. No kidding!

70. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.

71. A guy's friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.

72. Don't be a snob. Guys may easily give up on the first sign of rejection.

73. Don't be biased. Try loving a guy without prejudice and you'll be surprised.

74. Girls who bathe in their eau de perfumes do more repelling than attracting guys.

75. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.

76. Guys don't comprehend the statement "Get lost" too well.

77. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions but still love them more.

78. When a guy gives a crooked or pretentious grin at your jokes, he finds them offending and he just tried to be polite.

79. Guys don't care about how shiny their shoes are unlike girls.

80. Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them, they'll realize they're wrong.

81. Any guy can handle his problems all by his own. He's just too stubborn to deal with it.

82. Guys find it so objectionable when a girl swears.

83. Guys' weakest point is at the knee.

84. When a problem arises, a guy usually keeps himself cool but is already thinking of a way out.

85. When a guy is conscious of his looks, it shows he is not good at fixing things.

86. When a guy looks at you, either he's amazed of you or he's criticizing you.

87. When you catch him cheating on you and he asks for a second chance, give it to him. But when you catch him again and he asks for another chance, ignore him.

88. If a guy lets you go, he really loves you.

89. If you have a boyfriend, and your boy best friend always glances at you and it obviously shows that he is jealous whenever you're with your boyfriend, all I can say is your boy best friend loves you more than your boyfriend does.

90. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.

91. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain when he cries in front of you!

92. If a guy suddenly asks you for a date, ask him first why.

93. When a guy says he can't sleep if he doesn't hear your voice even just for one night, hang up. He also tells that to another girl. He only flatters you and sometimes makes fun of you.

94. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.

95. Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.

96. Girls are allowed to touch boys' things. Not their hair!

97. If a guy says you're beautiful, that guy likes you.

98. Guys hate girls who overreact.

99. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships

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hmm, how true are they??

Scribbled by JuN at {1:53 am}

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