Tuesday, August 30, 2011
Dear dear goes back to Toronto le..
Leaving is always so hard... ='(
but at least deep down inside our hearts, we know we both want this and will make this work
this trip further reaffirms that we will want to be together for long
i dont believe there is such a thing as the perfect half or the only one.
cuz no one is perfect
plus there is bound to be friction when 2 ppl comes together and get along.
even e best of frens also disagree lor..
it is more so who is the one suitable for you
& my feel does tell me he is my right one
Monday, August 29, 2011
Musical Monday
Sunday, August 28, 2011
Had our early anniversary dinner
& Sg do have quite a number of nice places to go!
has never been disappointed with Dear's selection.
really thankful he didn't forget and made the effort :)
i really cant fault him
don't think i can find another great guy like him who can dotes on me more than him
must really thank fate for bringing us together
不得不承认我是一个挺有福气的女孩
Saturday, August 27, 2011
Food For Thought
又见雨季
吴庆康
2359@starhub.net.sg
避开雨季不是易事，基本上我们无法掌控天意，老天爷是要下雨还是放晴，真是靠上天的心情和自己的运气。
上周末受好友叶良俊邀请，隔了14年再看《雨季》。那是一个美好的演出夜晚，音乐动听，而梁文福深入浅出的歌词更是句句触动人心。
《雨季》说的是一代人经历的感情风雨故事，有些人觉得故事有点老套，但我从另一个角度看。风雨经历每一代，每个人都有自己的风雨，怎样从风雨中安然度过，从中学习做个更坚强的人，才是雨季的寓意。
我从来不是一个最坚强的人，身边也有不少为了感情／家庭／事业／生活看不开的人。不知是幸还是不幸，这些风雨往往会飘到我跟前，片刻也将我淋湿，我需要拨开云雾扫开风雨，才有办法看清楚自己面前的路，要为别人遮风挡雨，是很大的挑战。
避开雨季不是易事，基本上我们无法掌控天意，老天爷是要下雨还是放晴，真是靠上天的心情和自己的运气。生活中有太多不如意，也有太多心碎，有些时候是爱不到该爱的人／爱错了人／做错了选择／做错了事／在不对的时间做了不对的决定，而往往都不是想要的。当我们不够坚强，无法解开自己的心结，就会被困在一个牛角尖，钻不出来。
《雨季》说的是上一代的感情恩怨，男女主角因为时间和时代的“不对”，分隔并怨恨了对方30多年，几乎连累下一代，最终还是得靠自己放开看开以后才走得出风雨。这不是老套的事，上一代的所作所为，实实在在对下一代产生直接的影响，而后果是可以很不堪的。
我不是为人父母，一直以来都只凭意愿／喜好做事，在晚辈面前也如此，从来没想过自己有时霸气或略为嚣张的言行举止或许会成为晚辈的“榜样”。但最近我发现晚辈的心智发展确实是受上一代人所影响，从对事情的看法／反应／处理方式，都“有迹可寻”。
你以为自己经历的风雨不过是自己的事，自己的解决办法由自己负责，走出雨季后就没事？不是这样的，只要有人看见过你面对风雨时的反应，是镇定／是坚强／是脆弱／是倒下，都会在他们心中留下不灭的痕迹／阴影，后果可大可小。
因为这样，你会发现原来雨季是不会停的，它来了又去，去了又来，每次给你的脸庞和身躯带来不同的“打击”，有时比之前弱，有时很相似，有时强很多，每次的雨季都在挑战你的能耐，看你是永不畏惧，抑或是泪雨纠集。
人生有太多风风雨雨，突如其来的一个晴天霹雳，有时会把你震得东歪西倒不知如何爬起来，当雨季“泛滥成灾”导致水淹／树倒／车毁／人亡，你也就得先倒下去，待天晴再重生再重新拥抱阳光。
就像剧中的一首歌曲，文福的词这么写道：“只要你愿相信，雨后就会有天晴，让我带你去看一看远方的美景。只要我们相信，阳光就在怀里。每个人都有抱一抱希望的权力，让那彩虹跨越梦与现实的距离，只要我们相信，就可以写封信给幸福说约定。”
说／唱当然比做容易，但每逢雨季，我们也就只能够如此相信，才可走出风雨，才有写信给幸福的勇气。
Thursday, August 25, 2011
more wedding invites..
all chionging for dragon babies??
& more and more of my frens expecting my red bomb coming their way
i will say my heart has make a decision
but right now i need to engage my 師傅們 to teach me their 獨門秘籍。。。。
Monday, August 22, 2011
Musical Monday
Sunday, August 21, 2011
Dear dear is in Sg!! ^_^
finally after all this while...
the feeling is just so right
now the main hurdle is my family...
& seems like i still got alot to work on my stamina..
despite all e walking etc, my legs still strain like hell after running..
還挺佩服我自己的。。
七早八早被人拉去跑步沒有怨言
還是該說我是被骗的 =p
i also did surprise myself at the 2nd half of e run..
my 2nd half is much better.. hmmm
due to a good foundation laid by my JC PE teachers?
shd i challenge myself for the 10km runs??
Saturday, August 20, 2011
Food For Thought
门
门，进去是家，充满期待的温馨。现在却是赤裸裸一个骗局。门，没有错，错的是人——自己。
／林高／
我退休后喜欢独自坐在市区某个要津大半日，读人。单身，结伴，或者一窝蜂在我眼前过去，感觉是在翻阅厚厚的人性史。有时我选择看步伐，有时只看衣着，看表情最好玩。刚刚那个豆蔻年华一脸阳光照过来，眼睛如雷射激光旋来转去，射向我，我看她，光立马暗掉。呵，这妞儿，对老人这么不客气。
有个华族青年坐在我斜对面发呆。不上班吗，这时候。嘴里咀嚼什么，哟！口香糖能吹那么大的球。哟，一吸气，球瘪了，一吹，又膨胀。一个年纪30左右的小姐回头打量他几眼，又回头，笑。青年受到鼓励，一吹一吸更起劲。
第二天，青年仍坐那儿，我仍坐斜对面，靠近他些，相距不过两米。他不嚼口香糖了，吹泡泡。泡泡满天飞。又不是街头卖艺，干吗呀。咦，那小姐来了。她简直走进五彩缤纷之中，泡泡绕着她飘呀飘。她笑得好像一枝清早的花在风里招展。
“喜欢吗？”青年问。
“你很酷。”
隔天，青年竟比我早到。手上多了件什么东西？是短笛。要献艺吗。他没吹奏。短笛夹在食指与中指间快速旋着圈圈，技巧熟练。好像不听书的学生耍着手里的铅笔玩一样绝。他张望着。看见她来，便把短笛支在下唇竖立，不让掉下来。为了惹眼吧，他屈腿独立，又飞起双臂左右摆呀荡。她一路迎向他笑。当她趋近，冷不防短笛落入嘴里。哎呀，他含着的短笛晃晃颤颤。她真的给逗乐了，嗤嗤笑开了心。短笛这时唧唧哝哝，似一队比翼鸟，唧唧哝哝……一路跟着她，唧唧哝哝……声音渐微，没去。
我倒要看青年今天耍什么新的。等着。哈哈，是并肩一起走来。他亲昵地挽她的腰，她的笑是昨夜梦里那颗星。远远的，他们的身影。前面有座颇有历史的教堂。
上面她的故事是我杜撰的。结局刊登在4月25日联合早报p27。她的名字叫庹娥娥。她穿上新娘礼服，背一扇红色的门，佝偻着一步重似一步上渥太华国会的台阶。她要向国会抗议。她的丈夫和她结婚是假，办移民落户加拿大是真。她给利用后就被抛弃了。国会通过的法令害了她。
可是，牛不喝水，强拉到河边还是不喝水。
国会在附近，我特地跑去看看。两扇重重的大门敞开，一如宪法封面的权威十足。几个系领带的男士和穿戴讲究的女士在门的左侧严肃地谈论什么。庹娥娥站在台阶喘气。背上的门压得她更驼了。就到了，差三级。
她的逻辑有点怪。如果她认定他是骗子，骗子当然是要抓住时机骗人的，她应该怨自己错把骗子当作丈夫。失败的婚姻多得是，不单只她受骗了。那些不是被“移民”骗的她们，难道也上国会抗议？抗议什么？为什么不立法规定骗子不许结婚？让她们放心结婚？
门，进去是家，充满期待的温馨。现在却是赤裸裸一个骗局。门，没有错，错的是人——自己。
人啊，不小心便把自己的言行变成一种反讽。
我胡思乱想一阵。觉得她是可怜的，可她把自己的不满付诸行动，勇气可嘉。据说透过假结婚办移民已成为一种现象，那么她的行动也就有了合理性。
我应该从他——移民的角度杜撰另一个故事。也让他背一扇门作为故事的卖点。这一回是上街搞创意……多年前有个搞行为艺术的青年一举成名，正好移花接木用在这里。故事这样开始好了：
他从门口出来。天！裸着下体，手里握一把红色的剪刀，居然慢悠悠，一根根剪阴毛，掌心却故意遮掩那话儿吊胃口。
不好。这样开头太露了。前面先得有一小段环境氛围的拿捏……你读到这里，要是灵光乍现，想到什么好的点子，告诉我，我们一起创作一篇小说更有趣。
Thursday, August 18, 2011
despite all the public bashing of the transport system, I must say I myself did see some improvement on their part.
during the evening peak hour, the frequency is really not bad.. for the past 2 weeks or so, saw 4 other trains going towards Jurong East while on my walk back to home from the mrt and e dist is at most a 8 min walk
furthermore, e much grieved-about 'blackhole' regions have been rectified!!
i can now talk throughout my train ride to town without being disconnected :)
does that justify a fare increment? not necessarily
ah well, but what can we do?
i just hope they can at least fasten up the change/improvement
afterall, change is the only constant in life.
ain't it?
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
has spore become less safe?
from body(ies) found in water tank to reservoir/river to parks and now to just around Istana!!
& all in e span of a few months!!
as a saying goes '死了都没有人知道'
*shudder down my spine*
& one more shocking news is the purchase of Motorola by Google.
US$12.5 billion (approx S$15 bil) in cash!!!
first thought is why buy Motorola? cuz it can be considered a 'sun-set' company..
but then taken into consideration that companies that are doing well are of course unwilling to be kenna taken over, e decision is understandable.. 'easy' target.. =D
can i foresee a all out battle between Apple and Google next??
how will it change e handphone market??
Monday, August 15, 2011
Musical Monday
Sunday, August 14, 2011
frankly after listening to the Rally, PM did not really offer solutions that tackle e roots of the problems.
one obvious case is HDB flats.
what e sg population wants to see is lower prices but will the new rules change it?
& right until now, im still baffled why e gahmen keep focusing on "Singaporeans First" when shdn't it be the case right from the start?
This is SINGAPORE leh.. *duh*
which country ever put foreigners first one? even if they did, they will be ousted by the next election.
one thing that irks me further is e comment of 'cant be helped'..
i know sg is a small country with people as her only natural resources and singaporeans are not producing enough so... blah blah blah..
BUT i bet the question in most sg ppl mind is 'but do we need that MANY foreigners in the first place?'
esp when, i recall i did point out before, even the frontline/admin/sales staffs are foreigners!!! can anyone tell me in any way are they 'talents'? do they have skills that singaporeans lack such that we got NO ALTERNATIVE but DIE DIE HAVE to employ them?
one thing i have to give it to LHL..
he did the right thing by setting expectations right for e ppl..
the harsh reality right now is the world is flat.. MNCs can choose wherever they like to go so if they cant get e ppl they want here, they can simply choose not to come here or pack up & leave..
& Dear may be impacted from the tighter employment pass criteria... =(
guess we just need to await more details..
somehow our path is just not shun....
Food For Thought
海岛居民不再海浴
刘培芳
笔心
我们原是海岛居民，却越来越失去生活形态中的天然海洋性。
——刘培芳
薰衣草
新加坡是个海岛，四面环海，但试问我们新加坡人到底与海水有多亲近？如今又有多少新加坡人常在海滩上散步，或走进我们的海水里浸泡、戏水和游泳？
摊开地图，我们有东海岸路、东海岸公园大道，有西海岸路、西海岸大路，却没有北海岸路，也没有南海岸路的称谓。我们的北海岸其实包括范围很广，有巴西立、榜鹅、三巴旺、克兰芝，还有双溪布洛和林厝港，但我们并没有一条完整的北海岸路。
至于南海岸，那不就是岛国气氛最璀璨繁荣的滨海湾一带么？还有滨海南、金沙综合度假胜地，面向圣淘沙名胜世界的岌巴路。这里有巨型购物商场怡丰城，有港湾中心、游轮湾、无敌海景的超级豪宅，还有忙碌的集装箱码头和岌巴海港。
无论如何，那都是成行成列最现代化的构筑和最繁华的消闲设施。今天，我们已经没有多少片可以让人游泳的海水浴场了，除了东海岸公园、三巴旺公园，还有圣淘沙岛的部分海滩。
所以，海水实质上虽然靠我们很近，心理上却离我们很远。我们原是海岛居民，却越来越失去生活形态中的天然海洋性。住在一个海岛上，不会海浴，也常常忘了去看看碧波万顷的大海。
小时候我们常到樟宜海边游泳，到巴西班让公园爬树、退潮的海滩上抓螃蟹，到三巴旺海边和乌敏岛海岸礁石间戏水，甚至还曾在月色下黑沉沉的海水里沐浴。往事如烟，如今我们竟然对海浴心生恐惧，大家都说，现在的海水常被污染，不适合游泳了。海景，只适合静态观赏。游泳吗？只适合在泳池里。
那晚在怡丰城看完电影后，到水边的餐馆用餐，隔海遥望圣淘沙的缤纷华彩，心情美丽静好。想到昨晚刚在北岸的三巴旺海边吃海鲜，在淳朴乡野情趣的徜徉里，咀嚼小岛历史的嬗变，此刻却在南部的滨海堤岸，美食当前，看尽花花世界的繁华灯火，水光灯影里感觉简单的富足和喜乐。 前者有岛国前世的遗赠，后者是变幻莫测的今生，它们的命运同样与海水有关，是我们成长生命不可分割的一部分。
到底是海水改变了我们的命运？还是都市的高速现代化改变了海水的运程？总之，如今浪涛拍岸的地方，已经越来越少见天然平坦的海滩，全岛四面八方都在填土，国土面积扩大了，为了生存和繁荣，不得不如此。
填拓的土地越多，海岸的原生态越消失，加上防卫安全的考量，我们与海水的关系远远被阻隔了。两望烟水，至于到海里游泳，已经越来越缺乏选择了。
Friday, August 12, 2011
first overnight of e year later..
& e weather is so hot today which spells good for the sky condition at night =)
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
Monday, August 08, 2011
Musical Monday
Sunday, August 07, 2011
some personal observation...
its not just the younger generations that like/love bags..
even the aunties which are my mum's age are carrying various kind of branded
& i actually thought that they are the more thrifty ones who tend to frown upon the spendthrift way of us..
or perhaps their children bought for them?
or can the bags be fake?
though im no guru to be able to tell the authentic ones apart immediately, i now can tell the different brands apart by looking at the signature/distinct styles
& having seeing my fair share of bags, there's no 'one size fits all'
hence that is where i struggled to understand why people don't really how to match their clothes and bags well..
worse still, dont really dress well & carry a branded bag perhaps in the hope to elevate the overall impression it gives to ppl..
& they are ppl of my age *face palm*
somehow im interested in going back to substantiate one 'theory' me & some of my frens came out with several years ago..
not meant to be degrading but somehow im confused by what i saw..
another thing i noticed is that ppl tend to carry bags the 'incorrect' way. whenever there's a zip pocket at e back of e bag, there is a tendency for the 'aunties' to just make this side the front side. didn't they know that the zip pocket is to make things more discreet and 'elegant'. furthermore by carrying bags this way, it totally spoils the design of e bags..
no wonder why we got labelled as a poorer cousin in terms of fashion sense within Asia
Food For Thought
抹点蜜糖
王嬿青
内外
每个人都要抹点蜜糖，等待被需要被接受。
约翰列侬说过：要使你的政见被接受，你必须抹点蜜糖！
何止政见，时时处处，我们都设法给自己抹点蜜糖，将自己呈送出去。抹蜜糖有很深的学问，不是随随便便就能取悦和被接受。艰深的学问，不亚于任何一种真理。
好像奥巴马夫妇对英国进行国事访问，米歇尔实在抢镜，她和新王妃的pk，成了街头巷尾的议题和焦点。代表国家形象，第一夫人带着幕后“造型梦支队”，包 括自己的私人导购，她的主要工作就是确保米歇尔每次正式亮相的着装都能“既合乎场合又价格公道”（第一夫人的着装都是自掏腰包的），而发型和化妆师也要有 一套“十分钟完美妆容”方案。所以尽管米歇尔既不年轻也不算标志，却毫不逊色于凯特王妃。这样的历史性会晤养眼生动，让各国媒体好不兴奋，各种正统和花边 专集新闻层出不穷。给自己抹点蜜糖，因为喜欢第一夫人，所以喜欢总统，所以喜欢国家，是这样吗？
人到底相信的是什么，没有答案。
让别人喜欢自己接受自己，简而言之就是生存之道，职场情场一律通用。所以男人要爱惜自己的羽毛保持一种形象，女人要穿高跟鞋戴美瞳隐形眼镜，都是取悦之道。
相貌可以说是演艺界的人，最直接的蜜糖。“在好莱坞这样一个城市，你是否能在这里混下去完全取决于你的长相。”资深经纪人这么说。在这个地方，被常人视 为隐私的那些事情，统统不是秘密。在整容医生眼里，从玛丽莲梦露到布莱德毕必特，个个都不是原装产品。谁打过肉毒杆菌，谁整过下巴，谁正在拉皮，都是好莱 坞最深最黑的秘密。
走火入魔的例子，从东方到西方，艺人因整容而死在手术台上的事件时有发生。但这又何妨，据说奥斯卡颁奖礼来临前， 名整容医生的时间最紧张，这种集体狂热会达到顶峰，明星们都竭尽所能让自己看起来让人愉悦些。为什么？为了美丽，为了在红地毯上取悦镜头，取悦导演，让自 己再卖个好身价，所以要尽可能地美些，更美些。
整容其实并不值得讨论，“身体发肤，受之父母”那一套，已然陈旧，以外科手术尚未出现时候的见识限定现今的人类行为，非常不智。如果说这一代的明星比上一 代的明星更幸运的是什么，那就是医疗技术的进步，你不太可能有塌陷的鼻子。遗憾的是，我们整容后的明星，一律拥有尖得能戳死人的下巴，削得过分平的颌骨， 类似的眼睛，毫无差别的鼻梁。所有的人看起来很类似，他们肯定不是同一对父母生的，但他们一定是同一个时代的整容潮流的产物。
设计师友人明天要 见客户做提案汇报，问我黑皮鞋好还是深红色的皮鞋好。一定要在意自己的仪表，否则客户会质疑你是否能设计出好东西……抹点蜜糖，公关之术！ 有生的日 子，我们总要设法取悦别人。所以伊能静要继续闪烁少女般纯真的眼神，选秀节目的评委要恶毒得像个老巫婆，专栏作家要有金句，要引起人的注意。每个人都要抹 点蜜糖，等待被需要被接受。
不过再多的蜜糖，也可能取悦未遂，或者因为某种原因取悦的价值消失了，不被需要了。那这时候怎么办？是否代表着一种社会性的死亡而自暴自弃吗？！
Tuesday, August 02, 2011
尘埃落定。。
Dear is relocating here! (^^,)
Time to do my part as his girl
Monday, August 01, 2011
Musical Monday
