recently some of my frens are going through a low period in their life. they feel that they are some kind of failure in many aspects such as school work, interpersonal relationships etc. Besides dispelling their negative belief that they are of no use to the society and assuring that they are certainly not pests and encourage them to think on the bright side, there is nothing much i can do. with that, i feel quite bad about it...
it is not as if i have not been in their shoes before. during jc, my self-esteem did suffer bcos im not faring well in my studies and i am kind of sidelined by my female classmates. so i feel for them. normally one's confidence and thus self-esteem take a dive when things are not smooth sailing. but it is important to recognise that you can have things your way everytime and one must try to learn not to take things too hard.
however, i dun think i am successful in helping them to discard their pessimistic thoughts.. maybe it is bcos 冰深三尺，非一日之寒 ba.. when things dun go right for a prolonged period, the more likely these beliefs are deeply entrenched in their minds... despite experiencing slight depression before, i still didnt know how else to help them except to encourage them to speak to a counsellor... feel so useless *sad* it certainly pains me to see them so down yet im bounded by my own ability to help them.. out of the blue, thought of the following lyrics 'what can i do to make you happy?'... how reflective it is of my feelings...
